Being Seen

Being seen, 

truly seen,

is a risk. 

If you are not comfortable with the fluidity of your own 

opinions

thoughts

perspectives 

If you are not open to the truth you may be wrong

or that wrong is a messy 

slippery

concept

If you cannot see that what you believe to be right

may just be your 

opinion

experience

understanding 

perspective

You will lose connection every time.

Connection requires 

curiosity

humility

openness

It requires you to manage your own 

mind

emotions

and orient yourself around another's perspective.

If you stubbornly grip what you 

know to be true

with white knuckles

clenched teeth

walled heart

tightly closed eyes

you will miss the pain in the other's eyes

as they realize they are not safe with you.

It takes courage

fortitude

love

commitment to being a safe place

to ask questions

dig deeper

ask for more

lean into the fear

the uncertainty

the confusion

the longing

and be known.

Perhaps we fear seeing others clearly 

because that means they may see us

and we haven't learned yet how to be 

naked and unashamed.